Look

I am the kind of person who could really hurt you with a look. Probably you realize it better than anybody else and it is why you always prefer the cold, non-involved 2.0 ways of conversation.

But while you was struggling with your limited emotional intelligence and existential cowardise, somebody else successfully played its chances. And now, I am the one who wholeheartedly avoids you. For the rest of my life.

Short trip in the religious world

Are human feelings compatibles with the religious world? The question in itself is quite silly, but it is an answer: no. Gitai's Kadosh is a delicate - and well worked demarche from the point of view of the images: long, with outlined contrasts between light and dark marking the various episodes of the movie - incursion into the haredi world of the ultra-orthodox groups from Jerusalem. A world when getting married is just a matter of following the decisions of the parents, without having any sense of the reasons of why two people should stay together, but for having children and getting a certain sense of normality. It is no place for love, for nuances, for understanding. And, even when it is, as in the case of the couple of Meir-Rivka, the social pressure and the authoritarian decision of the parents are prevailing, without any opposition from the part of those directly concerned and seriously affected. The strangest aspect of this dimension is the fact that, many of them are having opinions and making judgements about a life they hardly know. And the ignorance is passed on from a generation to another. With the rare exceptions when people simply leave the group and look for their chances outside, as far as possible.

How to spend our time (mostly with ourselves)

Having very demanding and busy professional lives, we use to complain often - if not all the time, perhaps as an excuse for not being able to find other topic to address with other fellow humans, apparently eager to see - we don't have time, social life, beyond our scheduled devoted, at least 5 days the week, to the life in our offices.

But, when it's possible to meet other people, not sharing the same "fantastic" life targets - based, guess !, on our very demanding jobs - we cannot do anything else than to checking nervously our complicate cell phones or to send short messages. Because, in these tormented times, more than ever, we have to fight for our salary. Instead to enjoy a different conversation and pleasant presences or, simply, a different environment, we are keeping tight our connections exclusively with our offices.

During my last vacations, I'd observed (too) many young couples spending a wonderful time abroad fighting and arguing each other. Normal. It was the only time they were able to share together and they discovered the lack of any kind of communication.

I'm fully aware our daily lives these days are by far three times more complicated than it was 15 years ago. In order to survive, you need to be always ready, stubborn, strong enough to cope with stress and intellectual pollution. Also, than not all of us are doing the job they dreamed to since they were children and getting a secure salary is almost all they want before going retired. The other side of the story is that we don't have any excuse to unlearn the social language and to enjoy, even for one minute but for a one full minute, the other people's presence. Against the broad accepted image of the workaholic, I'm more and more convinced that outperforming individuals are those who have the sense of their time and could see, at a glance, what's worthy or not to focus your attention and those subjects could be not-at-all professionally related. If somebody is telling me he/she's not having time to do anything else than the office life, I'll be extremely reluctant to deal with, because the resources are limited and the lack of social imagination and intelligence are good predictors that, sooner or late this person will be a very devoted robot, but an extremely limited human.