Showing posts with label jewish movies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jewish movies. Show all posts

Saturday, 2 September 2023

A Sweet Film About Bat Mitzva and A Bit More

 


You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah available since the end of August on Netflix is a sweet coming-of-age comedy featuring Adam Sandler, his wife Jackie (as Gabi Rodriguez Katz) and their daughters Sadie (as Ronnie) and Sunny (Stacy, the girl who is looking forward to her bat mitzvah party). Sunny´s preparations for the bat mitzvah party may involve more than preparing for an epic event, as the world seems to crush: her best friend is dating her crush, she is constantly fighting with her parents and otherwise the preparation of reading her Haftorah seems to be going nowhere. But what about taking the mitzvah from the party seriously and trying instead of throwing an expensive party to fix somehow the world, starting with repairing her friendship.

The movie is based on a 2005 book by Fiona Rosenbloom that I haven´t read by now.

The movie is entertaining, relatable to both teenagers and their parents, with topics that are generally common to such age-related issues. However, the subject as well as the framework of the movie is fundamentally Jewish and definitely proudly outlined. The teenagers and their parents featured in the movie are proud to be Jewish, wearing their Magen David and kippot, attending the Sunday school in the ´Temple´ held by a hippy rabba who loves to be on the threadmill while teaching having her consulting hours. They are diverse children of all possible appearances and names, all of them sharing the same identity and - again - being very proud of it. 

For an American audience, it makes a lot of sense and it´s pretty common, but for the more traditional realms, including in Israel, it´s hardly heard of. Luxurious bat mitzvah parties, where girls are reading their portion in the ´Temple´ during the week and party as crazy in the weekend, are rarely heard of. And so is the idea sometimes that there is a vibrant non-Orthodox/non-traditional Judaism, happy and unproblematically own. Which is obviously wrong.

Therefore, You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is a both a movie for children and their parents, more or less traditional, funny but equally a reminder that Jewish life in general is beautiful and a blessing and enjoying it in the many ways it´s experienced is equally a mitzvah.

Friday, 24 December 2021

Orthodoxed. A Film by and about Berel Solomon

 


With so many books and testimonies around the web about leaving Orthodox Judaism - in its manifolds and various representations, I often complained that more testimonies about Jews returning to their origins is essential for balancing the facts. Being an Orthodox Jew - Hassidisch, Litvisch etc. - has only a way out and no one wants to go it? In my opinion, it is a false premise, as personally I known many more people who are actually returning to faith, a phenomenon very common among people in their 30s and 40s, in Israel and abroad. There are people who mostly grew up with any or a very limited religious education who in the middle of their life, found themselves lost and in need of guidance. They started alone or as a family, by keeping kosher and Shabbes and learn Torah and create religious families. Without relying on serious data, I may assume that this is a phenomenon predominant among Judaism, as my non-Jewish friends I´ve questioned about similar moves among Muslim or Christian denomination are rather unique and are mostly the result of religious conversions, particularly when it comes to young people.

Last night I was finally offered the chance to see a challenge to the predominant narrative about Jews living the fold, as I watched Orthodoxed - available to watch for free on YouTube - by and about Berel Solomon. Berel Solomon grow up in a culturally Jewish family in Toronto, where, according to his own account, they ate pork chops on the Friday evening Shabbes table. He went to Jewish school and Jewish camps but without a proper religious education. Soon, he become part of a dysfunctional group, got involved in drug trafficking and then got into the nigh club business. He had the mind for business and even launched his own reality show. Until the pressure of his ´empty´ life was too heavy as a burden and he collapsed. 

´Looking for the truth´ he first reached to a Breslov Hassid and ended up - where many baal teshuva end - by Chabad. Diplomatically, he does not mention the group too often, although there is a flash-picture of their 7th Rebbe and he prayed to the ohel in NYC. His rhetoric suits very much the usual Chabadnik enthusted by the return to traditional values and I may say that he sounds a bit too aggressive and show-offish for my taste. After all, the return to religion does not happen overnight and no matter how much one would love to come back to traditional values, technically it is impossible as one needs time to go through the long process of understanding the complex rules of kosher and of Shabbes, among others. But there is a lot of enthusiasm for burning up the stages and starting to catch up with the time of ´unkosher´ life. 

Berel Solomon is now training in Jewish business leadership, and has a religious family. His parents were a bit shocked by his choices - although they seemed not so worried as he was a drug dealer and nightclub entertainer - but nevertheless they got used with his beard, and kapota and kippah. 

Despite my reservations towards any kind of loud declarations of faith, I am glad that a film like Orthodoxed exists and despites its imperfections and shortcomings, it offers a different take on being religious and Jewish in the modern world.

 

Friday, 21 May 2021

One Word...

 


I watched the movie One Word: Occupation by Nejemye Tenenbaum shortly before the latest war started. It is a 30-Minute long, featuring exclusively one voice, of Gershon Baskin, a journalist and social activitist supporting the dialogue between Israel and the Palestinians.

I was not sure that I would mention this movie on my blogging rantings because very often in the last days I felt that words do not make any sense. No matter what you say or you want to say, there is an outburst of hate that will reduce you to a polite silence. But words do create sense in the middle of the deepest despair, in the same way they can deepen the despair. 

Indeed there is a war, and there will be probably more and people will die and Jews will be hunted again in Europe or elsewhere. There is mentioned in the movie a quote by Moshe Dayan according to which ´Israel must be seen as a mad dog, too dangerous to bother´, but times had changed and the 1967 war tripled the size of Israel in just six days. Things only went further and futher on and things went worse: economically and socially for the Palestinians blocked in Gaza, but also for the Israeli population who is facing the danger of the bombs sent by Hamas, or are part of the system which implements the rule of low in the territories. 

Baskin said that in fact, there are initiatives that may create peace, like the 2003 Geneva Initiative, but there is a need of a proper leadership keen to implement it. The right of fighting terrorists is justified, but there should be find a way towards peace. And here again, I dare to say, it is a matter of leadership. 

Not every current Israeli politician should equal the political intelligence of a Moshe Dayan, and the corruption and lack of common vision of the political leadership is a problem all over the world. But the cartoonish selfish politicians with a taste for luxury are not exactly the kind of leadership that may understand how important is to give up - power included - for the peace of your people.

 

Sunday, 28 March 2021

Discovering the World of Joann Sfar

The series Rabbi´s Cat - Le Chat du Rabbin (10 volumes already as for the end of 2020) - made Joann Sfar famous, but his career includes besides being a cartoonist and comic artist, writing novels and film directing as well. Currently living in the lovely Nice, Sfar has a mixed Askenazi - on the side of his Ukranian mother, a singer - and Sephardi - his father is an Algerian-born lawyer involved in various legal trials against neonazis. Last week, I had the chance to go through some of his works that I am happy to review and share with my readers.

The Rabbi´s Cat - The Movie


The movie based on the cartoons series in development was released in 2011, but as a movie, it condensates interesting unique motives related to Jewish life in Algeria, as well as Jewish destiny in general. I´ve watched the movie in the original French, and I laughed more than once, as there are so many hilarious grotesque moments. However, there are some serious issues introduced, how for instance the sheer discrimination against local Jews by the colonial authorities from France, who requested them to pass a French test in order to be accepted in public positions. Or the interdiction of Jews and Arabs to visit certain local public spaces, such as coffees. 

According to Décret Crémieux (1870) Jews of Algerian origin - were allowed to acquire French citizenship, that was withdrawn by the infamous Vichy government. Since 1948, around 25,681 Algerian Jews emigrated to France, with a very small local community still resident in Oran, Blida or Algiers. 

The questions the humanistic - hairless - cat who is able to read Le Rouge et Le Noir by Stendhal are echoeing curiosities about Jewish identity going beyond its religious definition confines, as well as about exile and . It raises doubts and questions in a smart, intellectual way, while displaying beautiful drawings on a pleasant musical backround resonating works by the Jewish Algerian-born Enrico Macias

It may be enjoyable for Jewish viewers from the bar mitzva age onwards.

Chagall en Russie - 1&2



The following BDs - cartoons - are the least enjoyable from the list of Sfar´s works. For instance, I haven´t enjoyed too much Les Olives Noires - made in collaboration with Emmanuel Guibert - featuring the life under the Roman-occupied Judea. I´ve personally found the story very disorganised and redundant, until I did my best by following all the installments in the series.

The second work I enjoyed much better - for the script, as was not terribly impressed by the drawings - was Chagall en Russie, a fictionalised story of the Belarus-born painter, with a deep touch of Russian fairy-tales of Chassidic inspiration. It also has serious Fiddler on the Roof snapshots and a grotesque Golem. (´Il y a des droles de gens dans ma Russie´). From the Lubavitcher to the repeated pogroms, there is so much Jewish history to learn about, while getting fully immersed in a story that may be or may be not Chagall´s.

Gainsbourg, a Heroic Life (2010)


Sfar is a self-confessed fanatic of Gainsbourg and had the chance to direct a multi-awarded movie about his idol´s life. One of the most important figures of French´s pop, Gainsbourg - born as Lucien Ginsburg whose parents were Jews from Ukraine - was shaped by his experience as a Jew during the German occupation. The self-destructive haste to outline himself, his extravagant life and professional achievements. By creating a visual narrative outlining the strong influence of the childhood experiences into his mature life, the story is punctuaded by alternation between movie sequences with actors - among which Laetitia Casta, Eric Elmosnino or Lucy Gordon - and animations which give to the movie a surrealistic dimension. I must reckon that more than once I´ve checked online several times many details that were shared in the movie, as my knowledge about Gainsbourg´s professional journey seemed to have been limited to his musical repertoire only. 

Gainsbourg. A Heroic Life reveals so much about the extravagant artist - who bought a Rolls Royce with the movie he got for a movie he filmed in Yugoslavia or created a reggae version of La Marseillaise - but whose life will keep the gaze of a child who experienced the Occupation, being forced to leave his childhood too fast behind.

 

Saturday, 13 March 2021

My Story of An American Pickle

 


Drown for 100 years in a barrel of pickles, Hershel Greenbaum is back to life in a Brooklyn and Williambsburg of hipsters. Among them, Ben, his gran-grand nephew, who is trying unsuccessfully to launch an app for ethnically conscious consumers. Welcome to the world of An American Pickle!

The story in itself has a plot and it resonates probably with many non-religious American Jews. Ben is the ancestor of Jews (religious) who had left their Cossack-threatened communities looking for a better future in the ´goldene medina´ (which was the USA at the time). As Ben, played by Seth Rogen, who also plays Hershel, there are many American Jews who made their Bar Mitzva, know they are Jewish but couldn´t care about it and this is also a choice. The net that connects can be, and often is, wider than the minyan of the synagogue. It can be a cemetery plot, or a pickle. 

The film has a lot of action, hilarious encounters and really really will make you laugh - even if you are not Jewish. But the thing - my thing, actually - is that by the fact of being made by people with probably a very limited - if any - Jewish knowledge, it gets it wrong at least in one respect. 

Hershel, which used to be a religious Jews - at least it is dressed as one, although his daily practice is just supposed and this for those who are expecting him to do so, is coming back to life after 100 years but his behavior is completely ´normal´. He doesn´t care about kosher, not praying, not donning tefillin. He is doing his pickle thing brilliantly, even starts a Twitter-storm with some inappropriate religious comments about another religion. but his character is mostly empty. Ben, on the other side, it looks more ´natural´ and genuine because, it seems reflects the lifestyle of the film producers. 

I will not call An American Pickle a bad or mediocre movie, is just slightly prankish by its inability to create representations of characters as they are, especially based on their historical authenticity. On the other side, the pickle story is really funny and entertaining, beyond the hipster-take. As for the rest of it, I am not impressed at all, but I am happy I´ve finally watched it as it explains how different the identity of Jews living in America can be. 

 

Friday, 28 August 2020

Jewish Movie Review: Fill the Void

With what excitement I was waiting for years to watch Fill the Void, directed by the Israeli-based Orthodox film director Rama Burshtein. The movie, set in the Orthodox community of the un-orthodox city of Tel Aviv, won several Israeli Academy Awards and the main actress, Hadas Yaron, who also played in Shtisel, among other roles, won Best Actress at the Venice Film Festival.


Personally, I am very cross about this movie. 

First and foremost, there are so many aspects I´ve loved about the movie. The game of the actors is natural, non-affected, their scripts are simple yet tensed by the weight of the choices they have to make and the responsibilities they have. There is not a ´we´ - the religious - against ´them´ - the non-religious - narrative although at least in one moment, during the Purim festival, when the old rabbi wants to learn Torah while the outside world is loudly celebrating, he requested with a mild irritated voice to close the windows. But it is a normal behavior and the decision is made without further discussion about who´s the best. 

I also deeply loved the artistic effects, with the long focus of the camera on the light and shadows reflected on the tensed faces of the actors. The silence while the camera stays focused tells more than the whole script sometimes. Especially for the case of people belonging to the religious realm, it reflects the unique interior life and the conflicts that often arise between what you want and you can´t say for reasons that pertain to religious obligations. The eyes and the more or less open exchange of sights - in line with the modesty requirements - are a world in themselves with their own grammar and expressivity rules.

On the other side, there are those things that I was not so happy about. Which is, the story itself: after her sister died during the later stages of pregnancy, Shira the youngest daughter of a respectable religious family, is tormented by the difficult choice she is faced with: marrying the husband of her late sister and thus the little baby born will not leave or follow her shidduchim plans. The movie starts with Shira and her mother, bursting out of innocent joy, spying on a funny bochur in a supermarket, that she would fancy to date. This, before the family is struck by misfortune. What can one do against misfortune? Especially if you are a religious person? Will Shira marry her brother-in-law?

There is not the ending I wanted, but it has to do with my own rebelious/selfish nature of rather doing what I think it is good for myself, instead of thinking at a macro-, larger level, which involves obligations and less feelings and emotions. 

The movie is relatiely short - 1h27 - and although I did not enjoy the story, I appreciated the play of the actors and the artistic effects. And this was a big won of my last movie evening.


Friday, 29 May 2020

Shavuot Movie Review: The Story of Ruth

I may confess that I have a very hard time watching and relating with old movies, especially those with a historical-religious subject. I often need a long time to figure out the context and cultural representations and appropriations. 
For this Shavuot, I was looking for something interesting to watch and was recommended to have a look at The Story of Ruth, an american production from 1960. It is available for free on YouTube and it lasts a little bit more of two hours.
It is produced by Samuel Engel, featuring as Ruth the Israeli-born Elana Eden. Eden, who studied acting and played at Habima and had her stage debut in Lysistrata, surpassed for this role big names such as Sophia Loren and Elizabeth Taylor.
Ruth the Moabite - Moab is supposed to be located in the nowadays area of Jordan - is a priestess in the Temple of the Moabite God Chemosh, that discovers Judaism through Mahlon, a young man she feels in love with. For his courage of exposing idolatry, he will die after trying to escape the forced labour prison he was sent to. A widow, Ruth is starting together with Mahlon´s mother, Naomi, the journey back to Bethlehem. As a Moabite, he is received with disdain by the locals, as the Moabites are considered a cursed people. In the Parashat Ki Tetze it says that there is prohibited to marry a Moabite - or an Ammonite - as they refused to give food and water to the people of Israel while on their journey out of Egypt, plus they hired Baal to curse Israel. 
Back to the movie The Story of Ruth, it follows at certain extent the story from the Meghillah, but I´ve found often the setting and the actors´ play more fit for a play than for the movie. Funnily, I don´t get it why some of the men are summarily dressed, in some very short kind of underwear, including the judge Boaz, while the women were mostly overdressed. As for Ruth, she was super flirty both as a priestess and as a converted Jewess. 
The conclusion is that I am not sure that I haven´t wasted those two hours watching this movie, but maybe I need to delve a bit more into the reception of Ruth by the Christian denominations and eventually watch a recent movie on Ruth and place the representations in a larger multi-religious context. 
The Story of Ruth was not the most exquisite choice for a serious Shavuot discussion but it was eyes-opening. Given that it took me a long time to really understand the deep meaning of the biblical story of Ruth, I suppose I need more time to grasp its cultural reception.

Saturday, 11 April 2020

Jewish Movie Review: Disobedience

Based on the novel with the same name by Naomi Alderman, Disobedience is a subtle discourse about the freedom of assuming one´s identity. 
Set in the Orthodox community of Northern London, it explores the triangle Esti-Dovid-Ronit. Ronit is back from NYC to attend the shiva of his father, Rav Krushka, a respected local authority. Estranged from her family and community, she mets again Esti who is married now with Dovid, the logical successor of the Rav. Ronit´s relocation to NYC was caused by the love story between her and Esti that seems that after so many years it is still alive.
Ronit, now a successful photographer, come at terms with her own past, but longed for forgiveness from her father. She is too late though. Esti, a teacher at a girls´ school is playing her role assumed to her in the community, until the meeting with Ronit will wake her up from the life that did not represent her. In a couple of days, this is about to change as she is asking her husband to be free: `I was born in this community. I had no choice. I want my child to decide`.
What will happen after that, how Esti will deal with her newly discovered freedom, if she will follow Ronit or not to NYC are open questions we are left free to guess. What mattered for the story was the main choices of the characters between their appeareances built for the sake of the community and their real selves. 
There are many reasons why I really love this movie: the authentic ambiance of the Jewish Orthodox North London, the natural ways the tensions between the characters and the unfolding story is flowing, the excellent play of the actors, among which Rachel Weisz, as Ronit.
First and foremost I appreciated the quality of a movie who doesn´t want to convince anyone from anything, and just has a story to tell. The fact that it takes place within an observant Jewish community is only the context, what matters is the struggle of the characters and their personal destinies and choices. 
I also recommend reading the book which is a good read too. 
Disobedience the movie is available on Netflix.

Monday, 30 March 2020

Why I Will NOT Watch Unorthodox

As tempting as it sounds to use this lockdown time for quietly watching episode after episode of the recently released series of Unorthodox on Netflix, after watching the ´Making Off´, I decided that not only I am not the aimed audience of this movie, but also for me, personally, such a production does not have any relevance at all.
Unorthodox series are produced by a team based in Berlin and are inspired by the memoir published by Deborah Feldman, an ex-Satmer women who decided to leave the fold and eventually relocated to Berlin where she is living for a couple of years. Personally, I admire her for everything she achieved: she is labelled a public intellectual and often invited to media debates where she is lecturing the intellectual German audience about the opressive world of ultra-Orthodox Jews (most of the time). Fully in sync with the intellectual interests - sometimes blunt obsessions - of the secular German intellectual realm, who wants to hear about the primitive assets of religious observance in order to have reasons to feel nauseated and outraged. It operates similarly when they hear/see Muslim head covering or hear about the restrictions of kosher or women modesty.
Talking about the religious practice is not easy and if you really assume the role of public intellectual, abhorrent attitudes and eyes rolled when you hear about mikveh and the ´unclean days´ doesn´t make you more interesting. If you are not familiar with a certain practice, the first time when you are shared the details might be a moment of shock. Normally, the more information you have, the more familiar you are with the topic and you can advance in building an intellectual representation, not only an emotional reaction. However, when it comes to religious matters, Jewish religious matters in Germany, this rarely happens.
Unorthodox, smartly promoted in the big English-speaking media and through social media, is moulded to answer those ´intellectual´ expectations. How can you not be happy with the story of a girl that grew up in an insular community, speaking Yiddish (sounds a bit like German, isn´t it) who leaves everything behind and is becoming a modern, emancipated woman in Berlin? Does it sound realistic? Of course, as there is not only Deborah Feldman the ex-Satmer living in Berlin, but a couple of more Jews with a very observant past who moved here. Not all of them are selling so well their story though.
For me, this story does not have any intellectual appeal. The same stereotypes, the fine irony of the non-religious towards the funny customs of the observant, the feminist scream of liberating the women. Thank Gd there are so many of them left within the community so when they leave, they can maybe give other interpretations of the same story. My time, my choices.
As for for, Unorthodox does not have any appeal and my time is way too precious to waste it watching an intellectually-dry production following an obvious thesis. 

Thursday, 10 October 2019

Film Review: Menashe

'For me, cinema is about opening worlds and understanding them', said in one interview the film director of Menashe, Joshua Z. Weinstein, a movie that gathered appreciations at big world film festivals, from Berlin to Sundance.. Without being Hasidic himself, Weinstein touched upon in this movie an issue not enough discussed: how it is to be a single dad in a Jewish Orthodox community.
Menashe is a widower, with a 8-year old son, fighting to make it from a day to another,while working as a cashier in a kosher supermarket. A good simple soul that does not want to fully conform in a community where the decisions are taken by others and where is a high pressure to obey to rules, from the way you dress to the way you pray and the number of children you have at home.
Considered unable to take care of his son, he had to surrender custody to his wealthier in-laws, until he is finding a new wife. His dates - arranged by the matchmaker - are a nightmare and it reminds him of his own marriage that was far from being happy. Menashe was married by his father at 22 (relatively late according to the religious communities), with a woman with whom he did not share too many happy moments. In communities where the social pressure is so big, happiness is not a choice: a man should provide continously to a permanently expanding family. As the duty of the woman is to have as many children as G-d allows, the duty of the man is to be successful both in this professional endeavours and in Torah learning.
The movie, spoken in Yiddish, is easy to watch, focused on Menashe's story - played by Menashe Lustig that apparently went through a similar experience. More than the play of the actors - not impressive in my opinion, the story is what captivates, with a warm empathic touch. Indeed, the situation of single/widowed/divorced women in the strictly religious communities is often portrayed, but what is going on with a man in a similar situation is less known. 
Indeed, Joshua Z. Weinstein succeeded to open and create understanding for untold, hidden stories.

Saturday, 5 January 2019

Shtisel

The haredi - ultra-Orthodox - world is often portrayed in literary or visual representations - either done by people that left the fold or are insiders, as a massive homogenous block. The members of the group are either perfect and self-righteous - the insider's view - or oppressive and intolerant towards any manifestation of difference and secular knowledge - the outsider's. 
Shtisel - a movie I am binge-watching on Netflix since the year of 2018 - makes a difference by creating and adding nuances to the extreme descriptions and creating realistic characters and stories. Based in the Geula ultra-orthodox neighbourhood - Mea Shearim is one of the many of them in Jerusalem - it develops around the Shtisel family. Each of the characters, regardless the age and gender, they have their own struggles and problems, either with the society or the other members of their family. They have passions and need to make choices, are doubting their mission or just don't stand each other. 
Interesting is also the different aproach on religion and the switch of traditions, from the Yiddish-speaking culture to the Hebrew traditions, or the positioning towards the Israeli state and the secular holidays and world in general. 
There are honest depictions that contribute to creating good and memorable stories, with individuals whose life and decisions you would be curious to follow from an episode to another. Some of the characters are also very well played, and my favorites so far are Ruchami (played by the very talented Shira Haas) and Akiva (played by Michael Aloni) representing complex personalities with a very strong will that are facing unusual situations that require decisions that are sometimes suprising. The scenario was written by Ori Elon - who also wrote the Srugim (Hebrew series featuring dati leumi singles in Jerusalem) and Yehonatan Indursky that studied at the Ponevezhn Yeshiva in Bnei Brak, an experience that he featured in a movie.  
As far as I know, it is the first time when the world of Haredi Jews is revealed to the outside world and it might be a surprise both for Jews and non-Jews. It is also the first time when probably this view is non-judgemental, wrapped as art and offering a largely realistic outlook. 
As for now, there are only two seasons available, filmed in 2013, but it seems that there will be more coming up, probably with the location of the movie moving to Brooklyn. I, personally, can't wait the new adventures of Shtisel family.

Sunday, 14 October 2018

'One of Us'...

Telling the stories of people that left the Hasidic way of life in New York, the Netflix documentary One of Us is as heartbreaking as such stories could be. 
No parent should be left without his children because a different life choice. No child abuse should be tolerated, regardless how pious the perpetrator looks like for the community. The help organisations like Footsteps in New York offer to those who left the fold to integrate into the new life is tremendous and it is important for people to know that they are not alone. After belonging your own life to a tight community when everyone is part of the whole, finding yourself completely on your own in this big crazy world requires a lot of time and patience and knowledge about how this worl functions. But everything has a price and those finding their way 'off the derech' might not do it alone.
The documentary made by Heidi Ewing and Rachel Grady last around one hour and a half and features the changes taking place into the lives of Luzer, Ari and Etty as they decide to leave behind their closed communities. Filmed over 3 years, it covers dramatic changes taking place into the lives of the participants, such Etty's defeat in court against her ex abusive husband which leads to her being separated from her 7 children and Ari's recovery from drug abuse. 
The community can be a shield for those who are in and a terrible weapon against those who left. I personally know more than one case of a man who left the fold and man given visitation rights to his children that remained with the observant mother because it happened to be part of an important Hasidic family. But if you are a woman without a supportive family - in Etty's case even her own family testified against her - you are lost. The fact that the abuser of Ari is still in a position where he is close to children that he can eventually abuse is outrageous. Those stories are examples of what is actually wrong and sets limits of things that should not be accepted. 
I personally would have expect some wider coverage of individual stories, that may reflect the diversity of reasons and situations why people leave and what happens after. I know many success stories and people that also managed somehow to keep their parental rights and also cases when child abusers were brought to justice. The stories brought to attention are heartbreaking and interesting but especially for someone not familiar with the phenomenon, it may bring a bit of diversity and shape a completely different perspective.